Feeling a little blocked this time of year?
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Hi friends.
Many years ago, I heard a thought from Rabbi Frand that resonated deeply, and I want to pass it along in case someone else needs to hear it. To me, it feels particularly appropriate right now.
We are entering a very serious time of year...
Sep 17, 2025
Ever Heard of IFS?
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
I have been fascinated with psychology for as long as I can remember. Whether the goal is self help, or just self awareness; discovering the reasons people do what they do is endlessly interesting to me. (I'll confess, I often find the way people's ...
Aug 27, 2025
Superpower Up For Grabs
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Something I’m noticing more and more as I get older: Optimism isn’t a character trait (although it is certainly true that certain people are more naturally aligned to that state of mind than others). Optimism- at least my way of understanding it- ...
Aug 08, 2025
The Avodah of these Weeks
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Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
There’s always been a certain vagueness, for me, around the avodah of the Three Weeks. Especially after a year—or two—when sadness and tragedy seem to ebb and flow on a regular basis throughout the months, the beginning of the Three Weeks can feel a...
Jul 23, 2025
Soul Struggle: Part Two
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Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
In the last installment of On My Mind, we were talking about the fact that the Nefesh Habihamis (there were no better spelling suggestions, so I’m sticking with that wonky looking one) is the stronger force, but the Nefesh Elokis is the smarter one....
Jul 09, 2025
Soul Struggle: Brain vs Brawn
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Have you ever noticed that the pull toward your nefesh ha’bihamis, the animalistic, instinctive side of you, seems to be so much stronger than the pull to follow your nefesh elokis? It seems to require an incredible amount of willpower and self cont...
Jun 25, 2025
Can we talk about feelings (in my avodas Hashem)
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Ready for a short, powerful idea that I just heard in a daily Tanya series which I’m currently learning (more about that later)? As we all know, sefarim constantly speak of the importance of not just doing the right thing, but of experiencing a real...
Jun 11, 2025
The Game of Life
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
One of the first lessons I teach my students is something I call The Game of Life. Without going into too much detail, it is essentially (what I hope is) a novel way of presenting a pretty basic concept. There are some people who go through life spe...
May 21, 2025
Self Care
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Why self care makes me roll my eyes
At the risk of getting a ton of unsympathetic feedback – which might be kind of fun in its own way – I’d like to make the statement that none of us really work as hard or get as stressed about Pesach preparations...
Mar 26, 2025
I know nothing
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
There used to be a small book called ‘Life’s Little Instruction Book’, full of super short entries (one or two sentences each) of different facts that the author had learned over his many years of adulting. Examples of his directives were: “Take any...
Mar 12, 2025
My first product recommendation!
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Happy Wednesday!
A line that I repeat to my students often is (say it with me if you’re one of my girls:)): If it’s a priority, it’s in your planner. What I mean by this is that often we speak a good game about how our highest, most important priorit...
Feb 26, 2025
Tu B'Shvat!
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On My MindMrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
I remember hearing Tu B’shvat referred to as the ‘Yom Tov of hidden love’. I can’t say where I heard (read?) it, but I was very taken with the description at the time, despite not knowing exactly why it was called by that name.
Over time, the reaso...
Feb 12, 2025
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