When a Latte is Just a Latte
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Dear friends,
There was a period in my life when, for one reason or another, I was feeling a bit directionless. I wasn’t sure what I needed to work on, or where my energy was meant to go. So I did the only thing that seemed to make sense at the time...
Dec 31, 2025
Hidden in Plain Sight
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Last week, my son shared some thoughts that he had heard from Reb Dovid Cohen, the Rosh Yeshiva of Chevron. They resonated deeply with me—especially because they overlapped with things I’ve been thinking about lately.
We learn from a young age that ...
Dec 17, 2025
Getting Our Hearts and Minds Aligned
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Hi friends,
A couple of weeks ago, I sent out a newsletter about the frustration we feel when we act, think, or feel in ways that contradict the values we know to be true. I explained that we shouldn’t be surprised—or even all that disappointed—when...
Dec 03, 2025
Traveling the Longest Road...
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
I’m sure everyone reading this has heard the saying that the longest distance in the world is between the head and the heart. And yet somehow, it never ceases to amaze us when we act in ways that contradict what we know to be true.
For example, we k...
Nov 19, 2025
Parenting Imperfectly, by Design
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
This week, I had the tremendous brochah of welcoming a new baby granddaughter into my family (simchos by all of Klal Yisrael!). As I held this gorgeous, pink-cheeked baby in my arms and looked into her cloudy newborn eyes, a strange (and maybe sligh...
Nov 05, 2025
The Myth of Hacking Ruchnius
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
A gutten vinter! There is something so comforting about settling back into routine after a long Yom Tov season. I’m enjoying these days before the schedule gets stale and I find myself longing for another break. I’m working on a couple of new course...
Oct 22, 2025
Feeling a little blocked this time of year?
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Hi friends.
Many years ago, I heard a thought from Rabbi Frand that resonated deeply, and I want to pass it along in case someone else needs to hear it. To me, it feels particularly appropriate right now.
We are entering a very serious time of year...
Sep 17, 2025
Ever Heard of IFS?
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
I have been fascinated with psychology for as long as I can remember. Whether the goal is self help, or just self awareness; discovering the reasons people do what they do is endlessly interesting to me. (I'll confess, I often find the way people's ...
Aug 27, 2025
Superpower Up For Grabs
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Something I’m noticing more and more as I get older: Optimism isn’t a character trait (although it is certainly true that certain people are more naturally aligned to that state of mind than others). Optimism- at least my way of understanding it- ...
Aug 08, 2025
The Avodah of these Weeks
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
There’s always been a certain vagueness, for me, around the avodah of the Three Weeks. Especially after a year—or two—when sadness and tragedy seem to ebb and flow on a regular basis throughout the months, the beginning of the Three Weeks can feel a...
Jul 23, 2025
Soul Struggle: Part Two
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
In the last installment of On My Mind, we were talking about the fact that the Nefesh Habihamis (there were no better spelling suggestions, so I’m sticking with that wonky looking one) is the stronger force, but the Nefesh Elokis is the smarter one....
Jul 09, 2025
Soul Struggle: Brain vs Brawn
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On My Mind
Mrs. Aliza Feder's Newsletter
Have you ever noticed that the pull toward your nefesh ha’bihamis, the animalistic, instinctive side of you, seems to be so much stronger than the pull to follow your nefesh elokis? It seems to require an incredible amount of willpower and self cont...
Jun 25, 2025
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